What Do We Really Look For In A Person & A Relationship

Initial attraction is great. The tingles sent through your body with a simple touch, the rapid beat of your heart one look can warrant. But after the initial heat of attraction or feelings or a crush, what do you have? Why do we settle for a heat that will eventually flicker and die? For looks instead of whats inside. We're all guilty of it. We have this list of wants and we settle for someone with none of it or maybe just one or two. Mainly the shallow things. We strive for the unattainable and settle for the easy. Why don't we try for something in between. Why don't we forgo the shallow and go for depth. Is that why so many relationships end? Why there is so much divorce? We get caught up in the heat and ignore our brain or heart. When we're single we know what we want but as soon as someone shows their attraction for us it goes out the door. Either we settle for fear of loneliness or we shut them down because they don't look exactly like we wanted even though they have most of what you want. want a person that stimulates my mind as well as my body. Someone that i can be me around, the good, the bad, the silly, the serious, all aspects of me, not just some. Someone i can have in depth conversations with where i can say what i really think and not leave things out for fear of what they'll think. A person i can disagree with and not tip toe around for fear of what will happen when we argue. A person that thinks for themselves. A person who fully beliefs in what they believe because they've thoroughly thought it out instead of following the herd. A person who's open minded but doesn't back down from their beliefs because of what you might think. A person who's smart, caring, who makes me laugh. A person who makes my skin flush, makes my stomach flutter, makes my brain muddled at the same time they make it think and search. Someone who's passionate about certain things they like. Someone who's down to earth. Someone I'm comfortable around. So why do we settle? Why should we?