For Women

I say this from experience and I'm sure most of you will roll your eyes or think its not me, it wont happen to me, its different with me. Do not settle for less than you want, less than you need, less than you deserve. I understand the need to be there for someone you love, the need to help. I understand the thought that if you just love them enough, show them that they'll change. I understand the thought that they just need a little more time, and they'll change. First of all, a person will never change unless they want to. Love will not change them, just because you are a good woman and are there for them does not mean this will make them want to better themselves. They will only do this if it comes from deep within, if they are tired of being what they are and want to be better. This does not mean you were not enough to change them, it means it has to come from them. It has nothing to do with you. If you have problems when you are dating, if things annoy you to no end, things will not get better if..
A. You do whatever they want.
B. You change yourself to what they need.
C. You get engaged.
D. You get married.
E. You have children together.
F. You move in together.
All these things listed will only make it worse. The problems will get bigger. What annoyed you before will multiply by ten because they are always there and you will not get a break from it.
Now I understand the believe that love sticks thick and thin, good and bad, hard and easy. Which I myself agree. And though love is never easy and takes hard work. Love does not willingly hurt. Love sticks through those tough times but it also has to know when to let go. Don't confuse the for better or for worse to mean you must be miserable. Please think rationally before you move a relationship to the next level. Do I want to put up with this for the rest of my life. Resentment can chip away at things, don't let yourself be stuck in something you'll grow to resent.